Ok, so once you become a mom or even just as we age as women, we sometimes forget who we are and how sexy we really are. We have now turned into this machine that is only here to please others-our kids, husbands, partners, and everyone else under the sun!
Before you know it, you are walking through life in a haze of who you were. Believe me, if you are wanting to feel sexy, you’ll just have to follow these few sure fire ways to bring that sexy back... The same sexy that is already in you... just waiting to be released!
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1. Pep Talk:
Ever wonder why the coach of a sports team gives his teams pep talks before every game?? Well, what better way to get you pumped about yourself and what’s about to happen?! So, why not do the same with yourself??
When you wake up in the morning, look in the mirror and give yourself a pep talk! Ya, out loud like a crazy person and tell yourself that you ARE beautiful, you ARE strong, you ARE one sexy, fierce, badass of a women! Repeat it. Say it loud. Say it proud. Even if you don’t 100% believe it at the time, eventually, you will start to.
Fake it until you believe it. Because one day you will wake up and actually be it!
2. Dress up:
I always feel 10 times better when I actually put some effort into myself. If you wear makeup, then put a little make up on. Slick back that hair or give it a good curl. I know that the life of a mother is beautiful in so many ways, however it will suck the life out of you in the blink of an eye IF you forget about yourself along the way.
So get up, brush your teeth, do your hair, put on a nice outfit and strut your stuff! Even if it is just around the house or to the grocery store! Dressing up and putting a bit of time and effort into yourself (even if it is just a little bit more) really will boost your confidence and your esteem.
This might be a tough one for many of us women, me included. This is your homework, put on a sexy outfit or if you don’t have one, then go to the store and try some on!
Once I became a mom, my sexy outfits were a thing of the past. Partially because they no longer fit, but mainly because I no longer felt like a sexy women. I lost myself and who I was. I was now a mom and my body was now used for nurturing. This drastically changed the perception I had of myself. I wasn't able to find who I was anymore, prior to having kids.
So this is why you NEED to just go ahead and bust out your trunk full of lingerie and get out of that oversized T-shirt you’ve been rocking every night for the past week. Even if it's for your own pleasure, I telling you... you will feel beautiful and confident in them.
Now, if you don’t have anything or if they just don’t fit (which was my case), then go to a lingerie store and have some fun! Try them on (probably not the underwear though…ew). Try on something that actually fits you and compliments your new sexy figure. You never know, you may just walk about of there with a few purchases!
4. Get Pampered:
I know, I know! If you’re like me, when I hear the phase “get pampered,” I start coming up with a million and one excuses on why I cant: I don’t have the money, I don’t have the time, I don’t have baby sitting and so on and so on!
Look ladies, we just have to stop with this because we actually can. It may take a bit of prep work and creativity, but I promise you that you can. If your able to go out and get your hair and nails done or even a massage then PERFECT, good for you. But, if you can’t…don’t worry, that's where the creativeness comes in.
There is no problem with doing your nails yourself. Go get your favorite nail polish, light some candles, put on some chill-mode music and have at it. Bring the nail shop to you if you have to! If you have kids and have a sitter or can do it while they nap... then lucky you. But if you don't, just do it with them there.
Another thing you can do is take a bath. Again, set the mood. Get yourself some essential oils to add to the water, dim the lights, add some bubbles, put on that music that soothes your soul and chill. Even if it is only for 20 minutes. To be honest with you, shower time is MY time. Please believe that I will extend out my showers or baths to get that quiet time to sit, think, and not have someone say mom every second! LOL.
I think that when we think of pampering ourselves, we think of this expensive day trip somewhere, but it doesn’t have to be like that. Sometimes just taking that extended shower in silence is all I need to refocus on myself and on my needs as a women, not just a mom.
5. Be active:
Okay, so when I hear “be active” I think of a grueling workout and losing weight. This shouldn’t be the case. Change your thought process. Being active could mean exercising, but it could also mean just getting up and out the house and moving.
I’ve noticed that when I’m being active in any form (anything other than just plopping on the couch all day), I start to feel better about myself. I feel stronger, happier and sexier. You will start to feel accomplished even if you're not doing the daily “household” tasks. Now, if you like to exercise or just want to try it out... this could be extremely helpful for you. Not only will it help with you stamina, endurance and strength, but the chemicals your body releases will naturally make you feel happier. When you feel happier, you will feel better about yourself and in turn feel sexier for you and whoever you're trying to impress.